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Polyamory (Pol-y-am-o-ry) Defined:

The philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time

If polyamory is like a tree, there are many different branches and “types” of loving relationships that grow from it. Some say that there are two basic rules that qualify a relationship as poly:

  1. Committed relationships with more than one person
  2. Everyone in the relationships know about and consent to each other’s involvement

*Wikipedia on Polyamory*

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Articles About Polyamory

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Websites and Blogs Concerning Polyamory

  • Loving More – A 501(c)3  non-profit that’s been supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985. Community chapters, in the news, advocacy and more!
  • Poly Role ModelsA blog dedicated to sharing the stories of various poly people. Each are asked frequently asked questions and share their answers.
  • Practical Polyamory – A wealth of resources for new and experienced poly people. As a poly educator, she “is committed to helping people who choose polyamory learn skills to succeed…”
  • Poly In The Media – A blog that tracks different poly stories in the news.
  • Creating A Line-Family – A companion website to for an upcoming book about “Line-Families”, which is a family that continues indefinitely by adding new, generally younger, spouses of both sexes over time so that the family does not end. It provides a wealth of resources for Poly people to address various issues legal and practical.
  • The Ordinary Extraordinary – A blog written by a poly fidelities, male-female couple that dates only one woman at a time. They report on different poly issues in the news, review books, etc. They also have a 205 page book about their story, which you can download for free here!
  • Polyamory on Reddit – News, views, and issues around polyamory, polyfidelity, poly people, and related issues. For more general ethical sluttiness, responsible non-monogamy, and related non-traditional relationship styles, check out/r/NonMonogamy
  • SoloPoly.net – Life, relationships, and Dating as a free agent. A blog by a person that has been actively polyamorous for over a decade. The authors main focus seems to be on non-primary partners in poly relationships
  • MoreThanTwo.com – 

Books On Polyamory

  • Raf and the Robots – (By Sara Corner and Kia Maddock) A creation of “Stories for Unique Families”, this is a children’s book that is deliberately ambiguous about the family structure, allowing for the potential of a number of structures such as poly.
  • “The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multi-Partnerships and Families” (by Elisabeth Sheff) – “The Polyamorists Next Door introduces polyamorous families, in which people are free to pursue emotional, romantic, and sexual relationships with multiple people at the same time, openly and with support from their partners, sometimes forming multi-partner relationships, or other arrangements that allow for emotional and sexual freedom within the family system. In colorful and moving details, this book explores how polyamorous relationships come to be, grow and change, manage the ins and outs of daily family life, and cope with the challenges they face both within their families and from society at large.”
  • “The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Adventures” (By Dossie Easton) – “For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle–from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.”
  • “Sex at Dawn: How we Mate, Why we Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships” (By Christopher Ryan) – Sex at Dawn challenges conventional wisdom about sex in a big way. By examining the prehistoric origins of human sexual behavior the authors are able to expose the fallacies and weaknesses of standard theories proposed by most experts. This is a provocative, entertaining, and pioneering book. I learned a lot from it and recommend it highly.” — Andrew Weil, M.D
  • “More Than Two” – (By Franklin Veaux) “It’s incredibly practical, and flexible. In my review I describe how my honey snagged my review copy, devoured it, and immediately put it to use in his own relationships. I had to request a second review copy, but I was very impressed to see this book have an immediate real-world effect.” – Solopoly.net
  • “The Ordinary Extraordinary” – (By Alan and Anna Black) This book is free to download and explores the history of this couple’s poly life. Starting as a male-female couple they seek other women (one at a time) for sex, yes, but ultimately for a long term committed relationship.

Movies, Videos, and Audios on Polyamory:

  • Monogamish – A documentary in the making, a “quest to understand sex, love, and marriage in the 21st century”, by Tao Respoli.
  • Family – A Youtube series about Polyamory, created by a Male-Female-Male polyamorous triad from Seattle. They create the script and the actors volunteer their time to play it out.
  • “Ted Talks Not To Miss” (Practical Polyamory) – This is a page from www.PracticalPolyamory.com with a list of great videos to check out.
  • “Beyond Monogamy” (KQED Radio) – “The Bay Area has the largest polyamorist community in the country, and it’s growing. Polyamory encompasses a variety of consensual, non-monogomous relationships, from a couple who occasionally sees other people to a group of seven all living together in a group relationship. We talk with a panel of polyamorists about the how and why of their relationships.” 2/13/2015
  • Polyamorous Productions – “Lead by founder/producer Sarah Arlen, Polyamorous Productions has been creating digital stories since 2012. Sarah builds a tailor-made team of artists for every project, forming a family around each unique idea…What makes our productions polyamorous is connected to the word “polyamory,” which means to love many at a time. In our production house, we love many art forms & many love forms. Some of our projects tell stories about people living polyamorous lives, while others explore different themes, but all of our work is dedicated to exploring freedom, consensual love & family. And to be clear, we are directly working towards helping polyamory, equal rights & identity respect become internationally mainstream ways of life. We avoid soapboxing; instead, we wanna make entertaining art that shows new points of view, asks questions with kindness & starts interesting conversations.”
  • Polyamorist. A Different Message of Love – A 5 min video of Julia and her crew of huggers that are out sharing the idea of Polyamory to her Danish community. We really like what she has to say about jealousy!
  • “Are we designed to be sexual Omnivores?” (TedTalk) – An idea permeates our modern view of relationships: that men and women have always paired off in sexually exclusive relationships. But before the dawn of agriculture, humans may actually have been quite promiscuous. Author Christopher Ryan walks us through the controversial evidence that human beings are sexual omnivores by nature, in hopes that a more nuanced understanding may put an end to discrimination, shame and the kind of unrealistic expectations that kill relationships
  • Polyamory.com’s movie list – Has the directors, dates, actors, and links to finding them on Amazon. It also lists TV shows that are relevant!
  • Aserve.com movie list – A list of movies and links to the Internet Movie Database

Songs with Polyamory:

  • Can’t Help But Fly” (The Poly Song)” – by Naima Infinity and Be Steady on SoundCloud. Dani can NOT get enough of this song. Not only is the artist queer and proclaiming about another woman, but the vibe and freedom of it matches Dani’s heartbeat and thoughts of Love in such a harmonious way.

Here is presentation Dani did for her American Sign Language Class on the topic, and below it you will find more resources about this fairly unknown, yet undoubtedly growing category of relationship types.